The Rules – An On-going List for Your Own Sanity

  • Follow your breath.
  • Do one thing at a time. Then, do the next obvious thing.
  • Put things where you expect them to be. (If you don’t know where that is; clearly declare it or ask someone who’s been here longer.)
  • Use your words – calmly and specifically. No one knows what you’re thinking – they’re not you.
  • If you’re going to do something more than once – automate it or set it as a recurring commitment on your calendar or both.
  • Nothing good ever happens after 10pm.
  • Sleep on it. Only in a marriage proposal should you respond immediately. Everything else can wait 8 hours.
  • Love yourself more (then more, and more…). Your capacity to love someone else is limited by your capacity to love yourself.
  • Start the way you want to finish.
  • If you have an opportunity to travel – take it. Do not cancel.
  • Schedule what’s next.
  • Ask for what you want – and be specific.
  • Wash your bowl. It takes far less time and is far more satisfying than your brain expects. 
  • Take ownership.
  • If the question has even come to mind then, yes, you should quit your job. Discomfort is not security. 
  • It’s OK to have wronged. It’s not OK to lash-out, contradict, or act ignorant when confronted. Just apologize and find a way to make it better.
  • You don’t need to react.
  • Commit. Prepare. Pre-prepare.
  • Order the fish tacos. Always.
  • If there’s a solution – there’s no reason to worry. If there’s no solution – there’s no reason to worry.
  • First, try. Then, take a step back. Then, actually try.
  • Opportunities to fulfill your dreams always arrive before you’re ready.
  • Learn to deal with yourself. You are, and will always be, your biggest problem.
  • If you’re in your office – you’re not doing your most important work.
  • The easiest thing to do is what’s on your calendar.
  • If it has a deadline, it’s not your most important work.
  • Really commit making the most valuable mess you can.
  • Success is requiring less.
  • Success is not being interrupted.
  • Make fewer, more significant, decisions.
  • Long game wins.
  • Everything you need to get started is already here.
  • Not everything needs to happen right now. Right now, not everything needs to happen.
  • Pick up the tab & leave a generous tip.
  • Make the implicit explicit
  • Speed rarely matters more than endurance.
  • Savor your obsessions.
  • Resist definitively applying identity – to yourself, as well as to others.
  • Everything is much more malleable than it may appear. Similarly, the range of acceptable solutions is likely wider than initially appears.
  • Do something to make yourself 10% happier, calmer, and more comfortable.
  • The bulk of the resistance is in your head.
  • Move for broader opportunity – not for an individual job.